incident happened few months ago, let me share…
One day my
one of my cousin sisters told me over phone that a meeting has been arranged
for her marriage purpose in coming Sunday; in the same day aunty also called us
and requested to attend the meeting. She requested me and my sister to be
present there. For some urgent works my sister could not visit there but made
her promise that if this meeting results positive then she will surely attend further
meetings. Traveling three hours by bus I reached their house in Sunday nearly
at 10 am. The meeting was arranged in the evening. Nearly at 6 pm the boy came
with his mother and an aunty. My Uncle and aunty were talking with them and
after a while I joined.I was totally
silent from the beginning; actually I have the habit to talk as much as less
possible. Then after few minutes aunty went to bring my cousin sister, she
entered with the foods that has been arranged for them, she served the plates
and sat. Conversations were going on as it happens. After finishing the food
the boy had to drink water but the table where the glass of water were kept,
was not in his reach, so his mother served him the glass and the boy said
“Thank You” to his mother. Then after few minutes aunty prepared tea for all of
us, again his (Boy) mother gave him the tea taking from the table and the boy again
said “Thank You” to his mother. Then nearly after 30 minutes they went away.
After they leave
my uncle asked his daughter about her opinion, she clearly said that she did
not like this boy and then uncle called the middle man who arranged this
meeting and informed him about my sister’s opinion. Doing all these we became
relaxed and sat in the balcony, uncle was not present there, we were taking
tea, then aunty asked my cousin sister the reason for denying the boy, she was
about to give the answer but that time uncle entered and said “let it go, she
doesn’t like and that’s all, When she will like someone then we will proceed.”
I must say that my uncle is a full supporter of her daughter.
And At last
the very expected question came to me, uncle asked
(as he calls me) what’s your opinion about that boy?
I don’t know
why but every time my closed ones ask for my opinion whenever I meet any
OK, let me come to the point, uncle just finished asking me the
question then immediately my sister said
about to ask him this question.
I had to
answer and I was waiting for the moment so that I could make myself cool
bringing out my thoughts through my words, actually the nature of the boy
irritated me, at first and in short I said
is not a man; he has turned to a machine.
I had to
explain my words, here I am sharing what I told observing that boy
You” to mom!!!! I just can’t imagine saying thanks to mom. He has turned to
machine after performing formalities in corporate life for few years.
mom!!! For what reason you will say thanks to mom???---for those nine months
that she spent with various types of pains and sufferings when you were in her
womb, she took your care without seeing your face, she started to love you when
she did not see your face, in those nine months she spent many sleepless
nights, she suffered from various types of physical complexities and she
sacrificed lots of her desires, she ignored some of her favorite foods because
it were not healthy for you, can you repay those by saying “Thank You”? for
what reason you will say thank you to your mom?---for those sacrifices that she
made when you were a child, she ignored many parties and gatherings because
there you will not get a sound sleep, there you will feel uneasy due to crowd
and various types of sounds. She used to realize what you want when you were
unable to speak, she could distinguish your crying and uneasiness, seeing these
entire she easily understood whether you are happy or sad or you need food. When
you started to go school she used to be worried until you return home,
gradually with time she became acquainted with it but it does not mean that she
did not used to be worried.
for a while and added
doesn’t understand the value of a relationship, he says thanks to mom as he
does with his colleagues and clients, to say “Thank You” is a formality and
there is no place of formality in some relations as I believe. There are some relations that are to be felt from
heart and performed from heart; there is no place of brain in those relations.
The boy don’t understand the simple fact that some people doesn’t care of his
“Thank you”, some relations doesn’t at all affected by “Thank you”. Can he
repay all those things that her mom did for him when he was a child? Can he
repay all those feelings those his mom has for him? Can he repay all those
prayers those his mother makes every moment only for him? No one can repay it,
arrey,yeh pyaar ek Maa ka haiaur iss pyaar ka koi mol nehi , yeh toh anmol
hota hai, thank you bol ke iss ka apmaan na karo.
are right Dada.
I had to say
something more, so I started again
lives a corporate life not only in office but also in home, he is unable to
differentiate between the professional life and personal life. At least with
parents don’t be formal. How can he imagine that--- “Maa ko Thank you bolna
chahiye”.Maa ne paani diya toh “Thank
You”, Khana diya toh “Thank You”, aab pyaar se saar pe hath rakhega toh bhi
“Thank you” hi bolega !!!, ok if you really wish to say “Thank You” then
remember all those love, cares, prayers and sacrifices that she is giving and
doing from your childhood and you will realize that---abhi se lekar jab tak zinda rahega tu ,tab tak agar bina roke “Thank
You” bolta rahega tab jaa ke saayad tera “Thank you” kahena sarthak hoga.
and became cool after expressing my thoughts about that boy.
don’t talk much but when I start to express then I express everything that I
have in my heart and mind and don’t stop till I finish.
After I finished,
my cousin sister said
---I did not
think so deeply but I did not like the boy for the same reason, he is too
I have shared what I feel and I think, it’s not necessary that you will admit
request I want to make to all of you---Don’t say “Thank You” to your moms,
because whatever she does for you, she does from the deep core of her heart and
she really doesn’t care of your “Thanks You”, if you really wish to “Thanks”
her then serve for her, take care of her, try to give her all the happiness
that she wished but remained unfulfilled, try to make her smile every day. It’s
also applicable for your father and if you can do it then this will be proper
“Thanks” giving to your parents.
read this article, after reading it, spend some time remembering all those
things that your parents did and do for you and I am sure you will give a hug
to them and those who are far away from home will surely call your parents.